Ugqirha "emva kwengozi ndibone umphefumlo womfazi wam ongasekhoyo"

Ugqirha osebenze iminyaka engama-25 kumayeza kaxakeka uxelele abafundi ngamanye amava akhe e-surreal ebaleni- kubandakanya intlanganiso apho wabona umoya okanye umfanekiso womfazi ongasekhoyo wexhoba lengozi ebonakala ngathi Ukubhabha emoyeni ngaphezulu kwakhe kwigumbi lokusebenza.

IYunivesithi yasePacific Northwest ibambe umsitho woluntu ngolwe-Lwesithathu kunye nowayesakuba ngugqirha ongxamisekileyo uJeff O'Driscoll, owayethetha nabafundi malunga nokujongana nezigulana eziphantse zafa. U-O'Driscoll uthi yonke imihla yahlukile kwizigulana ezingxamisekileyo: umzuzu omnye unokuba ujongene nomntwana onempumlo kwaye ngelinye ixesha unokuba nendoda enenxeba lokudutyulwa.

"Ngesinye isihlandlo, umzekelo, umfana othile wangena enenxeba lokudutyulwa esifubeni sakhe, savula isifuba sakhe ndenza nokuthanjiswa kwentliziyo - nanjengoko ugqirha ongxamisekileyo enamava angaqhelekanga," Utshilo u-O'Driscoll. Kodwa u-O'Driscoll uthi awona matyala angaqhelekanga awayejamelana nawo yayikukuba izigulana zinamava okusondela ekufeni. Uthi kwezi meko uninzi lwezigulana zinokudibana ngokwasemoyeni njengokuziva ngathi baphume emzimbeni okanye ukuba bathetha nabantu ababathandayo abaswelekileyo okanye izidalwa ezingcwele. U-O'Driscoll uthi ngelixa wayephatha indoda eyayikwingozi yemoto etshabalalisayo apho umfazi kunye nonyana wakhe basweleka kwindawo leyo, u-O'Driscoll ngokwakhe wayenamava okomoya kwaye wabona umfazi wendoda kwindawo eyenzakeleyo. .

"Ngelixesha wayese-ER, ndangena kwisuti yomothuko kwaye unkosikazi wakhe, unkosikazi ongasekhoyo, wayemi entla kwakhe emoyeni, emjongele phantsi kwaye ejonge inkathalo awayeyifumana, utshilo u-O'Driscoll. . Ngoku u-O'Driscoll uyeke umsebenzi wakhe wokukhathalela abaguli abangxamisekileyo kwaye uhamba ilizwe ethetha ngamava okomoya athe waqubisana nawo.

U-O'Driscoll uthi akalindelanga ukuba abafundi bezonyango bakholelwe kwiintlanganiso zokomoya ezinye izigulana ezinazo okanye bade bazidibanise nokuba zizinto zonqulo, kodwa endaweni yoko bazilungiselela kuphela kuba banokujongana nezigulana ezinjalo ngexesha lomsebenzi wabo. . Uthi ukuba kukho nantoni na ayifundileyo kule kota yekota kunyango olungxamisekileyo, kukuba ubuxabise ubomi kwaye ube nombulelo yonke imihla. "Uye uxabise abantu obathandayo kunye notshintsho olukhawulezileyo nolukhawulezileyo olunokufika ebomini bomntu," utshilo u-O'Driscoll.