Isikhokelo sokuba ithini iBhayibhile ngoqhawulo mtshato
Uqhawulo-mtshato kukufa komtshato kwaye uvelise zombini ukulahleka kunye nentlungu. Ibhayibhile isebenzisa ulwimi olunamandla xa isiza noqhawulo mtshato; UMalaki 2:16 uthi:
"Indoda emthiyayo, neyala umfazi wakhe, itsho iNkosi, uThixo kaSirayeli, ithi ,enza ubundlobongela kulowo kufuneka amkhusele, itsho iNkosi uSomandla. Ke ngoko zilumkeleni kwaye musani ukungathembeki. "(NIV)
“'Kuba indoda engamthandiyo umfazi wayo, kodwa iyawuqhawula umtshato,' utsho * uTHIXO kaSirayeli, eyambatha ingubo yobundlobongela, utsho uYehova wemikhosi. Khusela umoya wakho kwaye ungabi nalukholo. "" (ESV)
“'Ukuba uyamthiya, umqhawule umtshato wakhe,' utsho uYehova, uThixo kaSirayeli, 'uyambatha ingubo yakhe ngokungekho sikweni,' utsho uNdikhoyo onamandla onke. Ke, jonga ngononophelo kwaye ungaziphathi ngobuqhophololo. "(CSB)
"'Kuba ndikuthiyile uqhawulo-mtshato,' utsho uNaphakade, uTHIXO kaSirayeli," nalowo uyambathisa ingubo ngokunxaxha, "utsho uSomandla-onke. 'Ke nikela ingqalelo kumoya wakho, ekungahambelani novukelo.' "(NASB)
Kuba utsho uYehova, uThixo wakwaSirayeli, ukuthiyile ukulahla, kuba umntu uyambathisa ingubo yengubo yakhe, utsho uYehova wemikhosi; wugqale umoya wakho, hleze uzenze ngobuqhophololo. . (KJV)
Ngokuqinisekileyo siyayazi inguqulelo ye-NASB kwaye sive intetho ethi "UThixo uluthiyile uqhawulo mtshato". Ulwimi olunamandla lusetyenziswe kuMalaki ukubonisa ukuba isivumelwano somtshato akufanele sithathwe lula. Uphononongo lwebhayoloji yebhayibhile ye-NIV izimvo ngebhayibhile ngegama "Indoda eyithiyileyo"
"Igatya linzima kwaye linokuqondwa ngokubhekisele kuThixo njengalowo uluthiye uqhawulo-mtshato (umzekelo," Ndikuthiyile uqhawulo-mtshato "kwezinye iinguqulelo ezifana ne-NRSV okanye i-NASB), okanye ekubhekiselelwa kwindoda emthiyayo nokwahlukana nomkayo. . Nokuba kutheni, uThixo uluthiyile isivumelwano esaphukileyo (cf. 1: 3; Hos 9: 15). "
Amanqaku ayaqhubeka kwaye egxininisa ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato luhlobo lolwaphulo-mthetho lwasentlalweni ngokuthi luphule umanyano lomtshato kwaye lithathe ukhuseleko kumfazi onikwe ngokusemthethweni emtshatweni. Uqhawulo-mtshato alubeki nje umntu oqhawule umtshato kwindawo enzima, kodwa lubangela ukubandezeleka kakhulu kuye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo, kubandakanya abantwana kusapho.
Ibhayibhile yesifundo se-ESV iyavuma ukuba le yenye yezona ndinyana zinzima zeTestamente Endala ukuba uziguqulele. Ngesi sizathu ke i-ESV inombhalo osemazantsi vesi 16 ethi "1 umHebhere okuthiyileyo noqhawulo mtshato 2 Mhlawumbi uthetha (Thelekisa iSeptuaginta kunye neDuteronomi 24: 1-4); utsho uYehova, uThixo kaSirayeli, ukuba acekise uqhawulo-mtshato. "Le nguqulelo ithi uThixo uluthiyile uqhawulo-mtshato ijolise kwinzondo kaThixo yokwahlukana nomntu oqhawule umtshato. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela eguqulelwe ngayo le ndinyana (intiyo kaThixo ngokubhekisele kulowo uqhawule umtshato okanye intiyo yomntu oqhawula umtshato), uThixo uyaluchasa olu hlobo loqhawulo-mtshato (amadoda angenalukholo athumela abafazi bawo ) kwi-Mal. 2: 13-15. Kwaye uMalaki ucacile ukuba umtshato ngokwenene ngumanyano oluvela kwibali lokudala. Umtshato uthetha isifungo esenziwe phambi koThixo, ke ngoko, xa sokwaphulwa, waphulwe phambi koThixo.Ibhayibhile inento engakumbi yokuthetha ngomtshato ongezantsi.
Ithetha phi iBhayibhile ngoqhawulo mtshato?
ITestamente Endala:
Ukongeza kuMalaki, Nazi ezinye iindinyana ezibini.
IEksodus 21: 10-11,
Ukuba ithe yamzekela omnye umfazi, mayingakuncedi ukutya kwayo, nezambatho zayo, nokubalelwa kwayo. Ukuba akaboneleli ngezi zinto zintathu, kufuneka azikhulule, ngaphandle kwentlawulo yemali. "
Duteronomi 24: 1-5,
Ukuba ke indoda ithe yenda, yamzeka umfazi lowo, efumana uxolo kuye, kuba ebone ukuba ihlazekile ngayo, wayibhala incwadi yesohlwayo, uyamngenisa, aze ke emveni kokushiya ikhaya abe ngumfazi enye indoda, kwaye umyeni wayo wesibini akayithandi kwaye ayibhalele isatifikethi soqhawulo mtshato, ayinike kwaye ayithumele ekhaya, okanye ukuba uthe wasweleka, umyeni wakhe wokuqala, owamqhawula umtshato, akavumelekile ukuba atshate naye intsha emva kokuba ingcolisiwe. Iya kuba lisikizi emehlweni eNkosi. Musa ukuzisa isono emhlabeni, akunikayo uYehova uThixo wakho ukuba ube lilifa. Ukuba indoda isanda kutshata, mayingathunyelwa emfazweni okanye ineminye imisebenzi. Uza kuba nenkululeko yokuhlala ekhaya unyaka wonke aze konwaba emfazini wakhe. "
ITestamente eNtsha:
kuYesu
UMateyu 5: 31-32,
“'Kuthiwa:' Nabani na oqhawula umtshato nomfazi wakhe makamnike isiqinisekiso sokuqhawula umtshato. Ke mna ndithi kuni, Wonke umntu othe wamala umfazi wakhe, engakrexezanga, uyamkrexeza, nomntu wonke ozeka umfazi, uyakrexeza. ""
Opaque. 19: 1-12,
Ke kaloku, xeshikweni uYesu ebegqibile ukuthetha ezi zinto, wemka kwelaseGalili, waya emideni yelakwaYuda, phesheya kweYordan. Wayelandelwa zizihlwele ezininzi, waziphilisa apho. Bambi abaFarisi baya kuye ukuze bamvavanye. Babuza ke, ngaba kuvumelekile na ukuba indoda imale umfazi wayo, nangasiphi na isizathu? Waphendula wathi, "Anifundanga, ukuba uMdali wabenza baba yindoda nebhinqa", wathi: "Ngenxa yesi sizathu indoda iya kumshiya uyise nonina kwaye ingene kumfazi wayo, kwaye bobabini baya kuba Nyama nye? Abasebabini, banyama-nye. Ke ngoko, oko kumanyaniswe nguThixo, musa ukwahlulela nabani na. ' Babuya bathi, Yini na ukuba uMoses emyalele indoda ukuba ize kunika umfazi wayo, ukuba ayale? UYesu wamphendula wathi: 'UMoses wakuvumela ukuba uqhawule umtshato nabafazi bakho kuba iintliziyo zakho zilukhuni. Kodwa ayibanga njalo kwasekuqaleni. Ndithi kuni, Wonke umntu oqhawula umtshato nomfazi wakhe, ngaphandle kwendawo yombulo, aze azeke omnye, uyakrexeza. Bathi kuye abafundi bakhe, Ukuba unjalo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, kungcono ukuba ungatshati. UYesu waphendula wathi: 'Asinguye wonke umntu onokwamkela eli lizwi, kuphela ngabo banikiweyo. Kuba kukho amathenwa azalwe enjalo, kwaye kukho amathenwa awenziwa amathenwa abanye-kwaye kukho abo bakhetha ukuhlala njengamathenwa ngenxa yobukumkani bamazulu. Abo banokuyamkela kufuneka bayamkele. "" Waphendula uYesu wathi: 'Asingabo bonke abanokwamkela eli lizwi, kuphela ngabo banikiweyo. Kuba kukho amathenwa azalwe enjalo, kwaye kukho amathenwa awenziwa amathenwa abanye-kwaye kukho abo bakhetha ukuhlala njengamathenwa ngenxa yobukumkani bamazulu. Abo banokuyamkela kufuneka bayamkele. "" Waphendula uYesu wathi: 'Asingabo bonke abanokwamkela eli lizwi, kuphela ngabo banikiweyo. Kuba kukho amathenwa azalwe enjalo, kwaye kukho amathenwa awenziwa amathenwa abanye-kwaye kukho abo bakhetha ukuhlala njengamathenwa ngenxa yobukumkani bamazulu. Abo banokuyamkela kufuneka bayamkele. ""
UMarko 10: 1-12,
Ke kaloku, emkile apho uYesu, wafika kwelakwaYuda, awela iYordan. Ke kaloku izihlwele zabantu zaphinda zeza kuye, kwaye ngokwesiko lakhe wayebafundisa. Bafika abaFarisi, bamlinga, besithi kuye, Kuvumelekile na ukuba umntu amale umfazi wakhe? "UMoses ubuyalele ntoni?" Uphendulile. Bathi, UMoses uvumele umntu ukuba abhale incwadi yedivosi, ayindulule. UYesu waphendula wathi, 'Kungenxa yokuba iintliziyo zenu zilukhuni ngenxa yokuba wanibhalela lo mthetho.' Kodwa ke ekuqalekeni kwendalo uThixo wabenza baba yindoda nebhinqa. Ngenxa yesi sizathu indoda iya kumshiya uyise nonina, ingene emfazini wayo, baze abo babini babe nyama-nye. Abasebabini, banyama-nye. Ke ngoko, oko kumanyaniswe nguThixo, musa ukwahlulela nabani na. ' Bakuba bebuyele endlwini, abafundi babuza uYesu ngale nto. Waphendula ke wathi kuye, Wonke umntu omalayo umfazi wakhe, azeke omnye, uyakrexeza kulowa. Nokuba ithe yamala indoda yakhe, wendela kwenye indoda, uyakrexeza. "
ULuka 16:18,
Wonke umntu omalayo umfazi wakhe, azeke omnye, uyakrexeza, Indoda yendawo yoqhawula umtshato, uyakrexeza.
Isuka kuPawulos
Eyoku-1 kwabaseKorinte 7: 10-11,
“Ke lo mtshato ke ndiwunika lo mtshato, kodwa yiNkosi. Umfazi makangahlukani nendoda. Kodwa ukuba wenza njalo, kufuneka angatshati okanye axolelane nendoda yakhe. Kwaye umyeni akafanelanga ukuba aqhawule umtshato nomfazi wakhe. "
1 Kor. 7:39,
Umfazi ubotshiwe endodeni yakhe isadla ubomi. Ke ukuba indoda yakhe ithe yafa, ukhululekile, angendiselwa kwayithandayo, kodwa ke mayibe yeyenkosi.
Yintoni ethethwa yiBhayibhile ngoQhawulo-mtshato
[UDavid] Instone-Brewer [umbhali woqhawulo-mtshato kunye nomtshato omtsha kwiCawe] ubanga ukuba uYesu akazange akhusele kuphela intsingiselo yokwenyani yeDuteronomi 24: 1, kodwa wamkela noko kufundiswa yincwadi yeTestamente Endala ngoqhawulo mtshato. IEksodus yafundisa ukuba wonke umntu wayenamalungelo amathathu emtshatweni: amalungelo okutya, impahla kunye nothando. (Sikwababona nakwizifungo zomtshato wobuKristu ukuba "bathande, bahlonele kwaye bagcine"). UPawulos wafundisa into enye: izibini ezitshatileyo zityala omnye komnye (1 Kor 7: 3-5) nenkxaso yezinto ezibonakalayo (1 Kor 7: 33-34). Ukuba la malungelo ebejongelwa phantsi, iqabane elonile linelungelo lokufaka ifayile kuqhawulo mtshato. Ukuphathwa gadalala, uhlobo olugqibeleleyo lokulahla, kwakubangela noqhawulo mtshato. Kwaxoxwa ke ukuba ukulahla kungunobangela woqhawulo mtshato okanye akunjalo, ke uPawulos wayilungisa le ngxaki. Ubhale ukuba amakholwa awanakulishiya iqabane lakhe kwaye, ukuba anawo, kufuneka abuye (1 Cor 7: 10-11). Ukuba umntu ulahliwe ngumntu ongakholwayo okanye iqabane elithe alithobela umyalelo wokuba kubuyelwe, loo mntu ulahliweyo "akasabotshwanga".
ITestamente Endala ivumela kwaye iqinisekisa iTestamente eNtsha ezi zizathu zilandelayo zoqhawulo mtshato:
Ukukrexeza (kwiDuteronomi 24: 1, eqinisekiswe nguYesu kuMateyu 19)
Ukutyeshelwa ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni (kwiEksodus 21: 10-11, kwacaciswa nguPawulos kweyoku-1 kwabaseKorinte 7)
Ukushiya nokuxhatshazwa (kubandakanywa nokungakhathali, njengoko kuchaziwe kwi-1 kwabaseKorinte 7)
Ewe kona, ukuba nezizathu zoqhawulo mtshato akuthethi ukuba ufanele uqhawule umtshato. UThixo uluthiyile uqhawulo-mtshato, kwaye ngesizathu esivakalayo. Inokuba buhlungu kakhulu kuye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo kwaye iziphumo ezibi zinokuhlala iminyaka. Uqhawulo-mtshato kufuneka lusoloko luyinto yokugqibela. Kodwa uThixo uvumela uqhawulo-mtshato (kunye nokutshata kwakhona okulandelayo) kwiimeko ezithile apho izifungo zomtshato zaphulwayo.
-Ibhalwe yintoni iBhayibhile ngoqhawulo mtshato »kweli candelo iBhayibhile ithi ngoqhawulo-mtshato: isikhokelo samadoda nguChris Bolinger kwiScrwalk.com.
Iinyani ezi-3 ekufuneka umKristu ngamnye azazi ngoqhawulo mtshato
1. UThixo uluthiyile uqhawulo-mtshato
Owu, ndiyazi ukuba uyathuthumela xa uziva! Buphoswa ebusweni bakho ngokungathi uqhawulo-mtshato sisono esingenakuxolelwa. Kodwa masinyaniseke: UThixo uluthiyile uqhawulo-mtshato ... nawe ngokunjalo ... nam ngokunjalo. Ukuqala kwam ukuyela nzulu kuMalaki 2:16, ndawufumana umxholo ubangela umdla. Uyabona, umxholo ngowowokungathembeki kwiqabane, lowo ulihlungula ngokunzulu iqabane. Yinto yokuba ukhohlakele kwiqabane lakho, into ekufuneka siyithande kwaye siyikhusele ngaphezu kwakhe nabani na. UThixo uzithiyile izinto ezihlala zikhokelela kuqhawulo mtshato njengoko sisazi. Njengoko siphosa izinto ezithiywe nguThixo, makhe sijonge enye indinyana:
Kukho izinto ezintandathu azithiyileyo uYehova, zisixhenxe ezingamasikizi kuye: amehlo anekratshi, ulwimi oluxokayo, izandla eziphalaza igazi elimsulwa, Intliziyo eceba ububi, iinyawo ezikhawulezayo ukugubungela ububi, Ingqina elixokayo, elityala ubuxoki. kunye nomntu obangela ungquzulwano eluntwini (IMizekeliso 6: 16-19).
Ouch! Olunjani lona ulwamvila! Ndithanda nje ukutsho ukuba nabani na okuphosayo kuMalaki 2:16 kufuneka nime kwaye nijonge kwiMizekeliso 6. NjengamaKristu kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba akukho mntu ulilungisa, nokuba ungomnye (KwabaseRoma 3: 10). Kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba uKrestu wafela ikratshi lethu kunye nobuxoki bethu kanye ngendlela awasifela ngayo ngoqhawulo-mtshato. Kwaye rhoqo zizono zeMizekeliso 6 ezikhokelela kuqhawulo mtshato. Oko bendigqibela ukuqhawula umtshato wam, ndifikile kwisigqibo sokuba uThixo uluthiyile uqhawulo-mtshato ngenxa yentlungu enkulu kunye nokubandezeleka okubangela abantwana bakhe. Kuyinto encinci kakhulu ngenxa yesono kwaye ingaphezulu kwentliziyo kayise ngathi.
2. Ukutshata kwakhona?
Ndiqinisekile ukuba uzivile izityholo zokuba awunakuphinda utshate ukuba awufuni kuphila ubomi bokukrexeza kwaye ubeke umphefumlo wakho engxakini. Ngokwam, ndinengxaki yokwenene kule. Masiqale ngokutolikwa kwezibhalo ezingcwele. Andinguye umGrike okanye umfundi ongumYuda. Zanele ezo ndinokujika kuzo ukuze ndizuze kwiminyaka yazo yemfundo namava. Nangona kunjalo, akukho namnye kuthi owayejikeleze ukuba nolwazi olupheleleyo malunga nokuba wayethetha ukuthini uThixo xa wayenika ababhali abaphefumlelwe nguMoya oyiNgcwele. Kukho izifundiswa ezithi umtshato omtsha awuzukukhe ukhethe. Kukho abaphengululi abathi umtshato omtsha kuphela inketho kwimeko yokukrexeza. Kwaye kukho abaphengululi abathi indawo yokuphumla ihlala ivunyelwe ngenxa yesisa sikaThixo.
Ngayiphi na imeko, nakuphi na ukutolika kunjalo kanye: ukutolikwa komntu. Kukubhala nje kuphela okuyilizwi eliphefumlelwe nguThixo. Kufuneka silumke kakhulu xa sithatha ukutolikwa komntu kwaye sinyanzelise abanye, ukuze singafani nabaFarisi. Ekugqibeleni, isigqibo sakho sokutshata kwakhona siphakathi kwakho noThixo.Isisigqibo ekufuneka senziwe emthandazweni kunye nokubonisana nabacebisi abathembekileyo bebhayibhile. Kwaye sisigqibo esimele senziwe kuphela xa wena (kunye neqabane lakho elizayo) uchithe ixesha elininzi uphiliswa kwiminxeba yakho yangaphambili kwaye ube njengoKristu ngokusemandleni.
Nantsi ingcaciso emfutshane kuwe: Umnombo kaKristu obhalwe kuMateyu 1 udwelisa umntu olikrexeza (uRahabhi, owatshata noSalmon), umntu owayekrexeza (uDavid, owatshata noBhatshebha emva kokubulala umyeni wakhe), kunye nomhlolokazi ( Umhlobo otshatileyo-ongumkhululi, uBhohazi). Ndiyifumana inomdla kakhulu ukuba kukho abafazi abathathu abaphinde batshata kumnombo ngqo woMsindisi wethu, uYesu Krestu. Ngaba sinokuthi lubabalo?
3. UThixo nguMkhululi wezinto zonke
Ngezibhalo ezingcwele, sinikwa izithembiso ezininzi ezisibonisa ukuba kuhlala kukho ithemba! KwabaseRoma 8: 28 basixelela ukuba zonke izinto zisebenza kunye ukuze zilunge abo bathanda uThixo.UZakariya 9: 12 usixelela ukuba uThixo uya kuziphindezela kwiintsikelelo ezimbini zethu. KuYohane 11, uYesu uxela ukuba uvuko nobomi; iyokuthatha ekufeni komtshato woqhawulo-mtshato kwaye ikunike ubomi obutsha. Kwaye eyoku-1 kaPeter 5:10 ithi ukubandezeleka akusayi kuhlala kungapheliyo kodwa ngenye imini kuya kukubuyisela umva ngeenyawo zakho.
Ukuqala kolu hambo kum malunga neminyaka emithandathu edluleyo, ndandiqinisekile ukuba ndiyazikholelwa na ezo zithembiso. UThixo undiphoxile, okanye ndicinga njalo. Ndabunikezela ubomi bakhe kuye kwaye "intsikelelo" endiyifumeneyo yayingumyeni ongazange azisole ngokukrexeza kwakhe. Ndenziwe nguThixo.kodwa ayenzwanga ndim. Undigxothe ngokungapheliyo wandibiza ukuba ndifumane ukhuseleko kuye. Ngobubele wandikhumbuza ukuba unam yonke imihla yobomi bam kwaye akazundishiya ngoku. Wandikhumbuza ukuba unezicwangciso ezinkulu ngam. Ndandiwaphukile kwaye ndala intlekele. Kodwa uThixo wandikhumbuza ukuba uyandithanda, ukuba ndingumntwana wakhe amnyulileyo, into yakhe exabisekileyo. Undixelele ukuba ndingumlomo wamehlo akhe (Iindumiso 17: 8). Wandikhumbuza ukuba ndingumsebenzi wakhe wobugcisa, odalelwe ukwenza imisebenzi elungileyo (Kwabase-Efese 2: 10). Ndabizwa kube kanye kwaye andinakuze ndikwazi ukufaneleka kuba umnxeba wakhe awunakuphendulwa (KwabaseRoma 11: 29).
-'3 Inyaniso Wonke umKristu kufanele azi ngoQhawulo-mitshato "ekhutshwe kwiinyaniso ezi-3 ezintle ukuba wonke umKristu oqhawule umtshato kufuneka azi malunga noDena Johnson kwiCrosswalk.com.
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Kuthatha amandla okusindisa umtshato xa iqabane lifuna ukuhamba. Yomelela. Fumana inkqubo yokuxhasa abantu abaza kukukhuthaza nabaya kuba nethemba malunga nokwenzeka koxolelwaniso. Gxila ekuzikhathaleni. Umthambo. Yitya ngendlela othanda ngayo. Qala into entsha ozonwabisa ngayo ukuze ugcine ingqondo yakho ingazixakekisi ngeengxaki zakho. Yiba nenxaxheba kwicawe yakho. Fumana ingcebiso umntu ngamnye. Nokuba umtshato wakho uyenza okanye awukwenzi, kufuneka uzinikeze ngokomoya, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwengqondo nangokwasemzimbeni. Ngapha koko, njengoko usenza njalo, nawe wenza izinto ezinokubangela iqabane lakho liqonde ukuba liza kulahlekelwa yintoni ukuba umtshato uphela.
-Ufanele wenze ntoni xa iqabane lakho lifuna "ukukhutshwa kwi-Into ekufuneka yenziwe xa iqabane lakho lifuna uJoe Beam kwiCrosswalk.com.
Iingcinga ezisi-7 ukuba ucinga ngokuqhawula umtshato
1. Ndikholose ngeNkosi, ungazithembi. Ubudlelwane bunokubangela intlungu kwaye abantu babhekane nokucinga ngokufanelekileyo. UThixo uyazi yonke into, ubona yonke into kwaye usebenza kunye ukuze kulunge kuwe. Ndikholose ngeNkosi nakwilizwi lakhe.
Yazi ukuba impendulo ekubandezelekeni ayisoloko isuka kude kuyo. Ngamanye amaxesha uThixo usibiza ukuba simlandele ngokuhamba okanye ukuhlala usentlungwini. (Andithethi ngokuphathwa gadalala, kodwa zininzi ezinye iingxaki zobomi kunye nokubandezeleka abantu abatshatileyo abajamelana nabo kwihlabathi eliweleyo.)
3. Cinga ukuba uThixo uphumeza injongo kwiimbandezelo zakho.
4. Lindela iNkosi. Sukuthatha ngokukhawuleza. Gcina iingcango zivulekile. Vala nje iingcango uqinisekile ukuba uThixo uthi kufuneka uzivale.
5. Musa nje ukuthemba ukuba uThixo unokutshintsha iintliziyo zomnye umntu. Sithembe ukuba inokutshintsha kwaye ihlaziye intliziyo yakho.
6. Camngca ngezibhalo ezinxulumene nengxaki yomtshato, ukwahlukana kunye noqhawulo-mtshato.
7. Nawaphi na amanyathelo ocinga ukuwathabatha, buza ukuba ungalithatha na eli thuba ukuze uzukise uThixo.
Iingcamango ezi -7 zokuqhawula umtshato 'ezisuka kwiingcinga ezili-11 ezibalulekileyo kwabo baqwalasele uqhawulo mtshato kaRandy Alcorn kwiCrosswalk.com
Izinto ezi-5 ezintle ezenziwayo emva koqhawulo mtshato
1. Lawula ungquzulwano ngoxolo
UYesu ungumzekelo obalaseleyo wendlela yokujongana nengxabano. Wahlala ezolile esazi ukuba uThixo usalawula kwanaxa iintshaba zakhe zazihlasela. Ubuye wathetha nabafundi bakhe esabelana nabo ukuba uyazi ukuba bazomngcatsha, kodwa wayishiya imiphumo yezenzo ezandleni zikaThixo, awungekhe ukwazi ukulawula indlela iqabane lakho eliziphatha ngayo ngexesha okanye emva koqhawulo mtshato, kodwa unokuyilawula indlela owenza ngayo kunye nokubaphatha abanye abantu. Baphathe ngentlonelo ebafaneleyo njengomzali womntwana wakho, okanye ubuncinci njengomnye umntu, nokuba baziphatha njengohlobo lwasemzini.
2. Yamkela imeko akuThixo
ngaphakathi ndikhunjuzwa ngebali likaYesu kunye nabafundi bakhe ababesesikhepheni (Mateyu 8: 23-27). Kwabakho uqhwithela olukhulu ngeenxa zonke kubo uYesu elele ngoxolo. Abafundi boyika ukuba ezi meko ziya kubatshabalalisa kunye nesikhephe sabo. Kodwa uYesu wayesazi ukuba ngubani olawulayo. Emva koko uYesu wathula umoya uzisa isaqhwithi kwaye wabonisa abafundi amandla kaThixo phezu kwazo zonke iimeko. Uninzi lwabantu abaqhawule umtshato luyoyika kakhulu kuhambo loqhawulo mtshato. Asazi ukuba siza kusinda njani. Kodwa njengoko sisamkela ezi meko zingafunekiyo, siyaqonda ukuba uThixo wayenathi ngesaqhwithi kunye nentlungu. Ayisokuze ikushiye okanye ikunonelele. Ngexesha lokuqhawula umtshato wam, bendisazi ukuba akuyi kusiyeka ngoko nangoko isaqhwithi. Ngokwenyani ayimisi okwangoku, kodwa ihlala isombulula izinto, nokuba andikayiboni. Ndifuna nje ukuba nokholo kwizithembiso zakhe.
3. Cela umngeni kwimvakalelo yokuba yedwa ungatshatanga
Ukuziva unesithukuthezi emva koqhawulo-mtshato yinkxalabo yokwenene yabasetyhini abaninzi endithetha nabo. Kubonakala ngathi ngowona mzabalazo mkhulu abafazi basetyhini abangamaKristu (kwaye ndiqinisekile nawo amadoda) ajongene nawo ngelixa esebenza ekunyangeni. Xa uqhawulo-mtshato lwalungafunwa kwindawo yokuqala, ukuziva ulilolo kubonakala kungumphumela ongezelelweyo kuluhlu olukhulayo. Kodwa nasebhayibhile sifunda ukuba ubunye sisipho esivela kuThixo.inokuba nzima ukusibona sinjalo xa usiva iintlungu kunye nelahleko enkulu. Kodwa ihlala isisimemo sokufuna ubudlelwane naLowo ukwaziyo ukunyanga iintlungu kunye nokuzalisa isithuba.
4. Banga ubomi bakho kunye nemali emva koqhawulo mtshato
Omnye umlo omkhulu endiwuva kubantu abaqhawule umtshato kukuphulukana nobomi babo obudala kunye nendlela ababephila ngayo ngaphambili. Le yilahleko enkulu ekufuneka ibe sisityalo. Kunzima ukwazi ukuba usebenze nzima ukunceda iqabane lakho ukuba lifezekise umsebenzi kunye nempumelelo yezemali, okwangoku kuya kufuneka uqale ubomi bakho obuvela ekuqaleni, ngaphandle koncedo lwakhe (okanye uncedo lwethutyana). Ndandihlala ekhaya umama, abantwana bam abancinci ekhaya, xa ndandijongana noqhawulo-mtshato. Khange ndisebenze ngaphandle kwasekhaya kwangaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana wam oneminyaka elishumi. Ndenze nje ixeshana elincinci lokusebenza ngokukhululekileyo kunye nomsebenzi weendaba ezentlalo ngeblogger kwaye ndingekagqibi imfundo yam yaseyunivesithi. Anditsho ukuba kwakulula, kodwa unyaka nonyaka iba mnandi ngakumbi njengoko ndimamela isikhokelo sikaThixo kunye nolwalathiso ngobomi bam.
5. Lumkela ubudlelwane bexesha elizayo ukuze ungaphindi uqhawule umtshato
Uninzi lwamanqaku endiwafundileyo malunga nemiphumo yoqhawulo mtshato lithetha ngenqanaba lokuqhawula umtshato ngomtshato wesibini nowesithathu. Ukwazi ezi manani kuye kwandigcina ndibambekile emtshatweni wam wokukrexeza ndicinga ukuba ndiza kujamelana nolunye uqhawulo mtshato kwixesha elizayo. Ndisenokubona apho oku kufaneleke kakhulu kwincoko, kodwa xa sisebenza ngokunyanga ngokweemvakalelo kwaye sisusa nayiphi na impahla engaphezulu, sonke sinokuqhubeka nobomi obunempilo ngokweemvakalelo (kunye okanye ngaphandle komtshato omnye). Ngamanye amaxesha silixhoba lomntu onentliziyo embi (osenza intlekisa kwaye asibambe) kodwa ngamanye amaxesha sikhetha iqabane elingalunganga ngenxa yokuba singacingi ukuba sifanelwe ngcono. Ngokwesiqhelo oku kuyazithoba de sibone ipatheni yobudlelwane obuyingozi, siqonda ukuba sinokhetho "lonxibelelwano" olonakeleyo.
Njengomntu kwelinye icala layo yonke impahla kunye nokuphiliswa koqhawulo-mtshato, ndingatsho ukuba kufanelekile ukwenza umsebenzi onzima ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke uthandane kwaye uphinde utshata emva koqhawulo mtshato. Nokuba ndiphinde ndatshata na okanye hayi, ndiyazi ukuba andizukuthandana kunye namaqhinga afanayo nam awayesebenza kum kwiminyaka engama-20 eyadlulayo. Ndifunde lukhulu kuqhawulo mtshato wam nasekuphiliseni emva koko. Ndiyathemba ukuba nawe uza kwenza njalo.
-'5 Izinto ezintle ezenziwayo emva koqhawulo mtshato 'ezikhutshwe kwizinto ezi-5 ezintle onokuthi uzenze emva koqhawulo-mtshato lukaJen Grice kwi-Believe.com.
Yintoni ekufuneka beyazi abazali malunga nabantwana abaqhawule umtshato
Abantwana kunye noqhawulo-mtshato zizifundo ezinzima kwaye akukho zimpendulo zilula. Nangona kunjalo, kunyanzelekile ukuba abazali bafunde ukuba badlala indima ebalulekileyo ekunciphiseni amava abantwana abenzakala xa abazali bohlukana okanye besahlukana. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezinokukunceda:
Uninzi lwabantwana ekuqaleni luya kuba luhlobo lokungakhatywa xa abazali babo bohlukene. Bakholelwa ukuba "le yinto yethutyana, abazali bam baya kubuya kunye". Kwiminyaka kamva abantwana abaninzi basaphupha ngokuhlangana nabazali babo, yiyo loo nto bexhathisa umtshato omtsha wabazali.
Nika umntwana ixesha lokuba lusizi. Abantwana abakwazi ukunxibelelana nentlungu ngendlela efanayo nabantu abadala. Ke ngoko, banokuba lusizi, banomsindo, banxunguphele okanye banxunguphele kodwa abanakukwenza oko.
Suxoka. Ngendlela efanelekileyo yobudala kwaye ngaphandle kweenkcukacha ze-gory, thetha inyani. Isizathu sokuqala sokuba abantwana bazigxeke ngoqhawulo-mtshato lwabazali babo kukuba abengathethi nyaniso.
Xa omnye umzali egxeka, egxeka okanye egxeka omnye umzali, oko kunokumtshabalalisa. "Ukuba uTata akangomntu olungileyo ukulahleka, nam kufuneka ndilahlekile." "Ukuba umama uyabhadula, yiyo le into endiya kuba yiyo."
Abantwana abahamba phambili emva koqhawulo-mtshato ngabo banolwalamano olomeleleyo nabazali bobabini bemvelo. Ke ngoko, musa ukuluvimba umva utyelelo ngaphandle kokuba umntwana akakhathalelwa okanye usengozini.
Uqhawulo-mtshato kukufa. Ngexesha lokuba lusizi, uncedo olulungileyo kunye noYesu Krestu, abantwana bezindlu eziqhawule umtshato banokuthi babuye kwakhona ngokupheleleyo. Eyona nto bayifunayo ngumzali ongenaqabane ozinzileyo kunye nozinzileyo ozimisele ukuthoba isantya, mamela imiyalelo kwaye athathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo okuphilisa.